I was in awe of these women when I saw the Tyra show about skin bleaching! How could a beautiful woman burn her skin to try to make it darker? Be willing to go through a complete body skin graft, just to be lighter?? Are we serious ladies???? Why are these beautiful black women hurting themselves and willing to go through horrible procedures and side effecting to have lighter skin? And, it’s not just western African American women, but East Indian woman, and South African woman….
I believe that this all comes down to a lack of self esteem... When you are happy with whom you are, you exert that. When other people meet you, they see you as the confident person that you are.
But, let’s not be fake, because that does not help either. If you have some issues with the color of your skin, let’s get to the bottom of this, for I believe that it is more than skin deep! Why does it bother you when people say whatever it is that they say about you or your skin color? Is it something in the past that has been implanted in you and now you hurt yourself because of that? Well it can be uprooted! Do know, and you can see that you are fearfully and wonderfully made by God?! He did not make a mistake when He made you, and your skin!!!
I am very blessed as a chocolate color woman too, and having a very fare skin mother, who loves dark men, she always told me how beautiful my skin was. She said that she wished that she was my color, because as a young woman, she was made fun of for being yellow, tall, with thin legs. She was called big bird…
Well I’ve decided to dance to the beat of my own drummer! I take what society has to offer as far as fashion, what is in and what Is out, but I don’t receive it all. I am not a super thin woman, and I am not light skin. As crazy as it may seem to society, I am very happy being that way, because I am happy with Joyi (me)! That is what it is all about, become pleased with who you are, and if you don’t know how use 211. They will refer to a counselor who can help you toward your road to wholeness! My personal help is from the Lord. Read the bible, google the bible, try blueletterbible.org to find out what God thinks of you!!! Because He thinks that you are PHAT!! And the ultimate DIVA (Divinely Inspired and Victoriously Anointed!!) How can any human match what GOD knows about you???
Monday, September 28, 2009
Friday, September 4, 2009
Sounding OFF!
Ok so I really understand that everyone has different love languages. So when you learn someone else’s love language, why keep expressing “love” to them in your own personal love language instead of using their language? What I’m saying is, if I have a friend who speaks Spanish and then I learn to speak Spanish, why continue to speak English to them?
There are five love languages that I know of, they are, words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, or physical touch. I fall into words of affirmation and receiving gifts as I love to encourage, give and receive gifts. Quality time is a half and half for me because that is not needed much, but is wanted sometimes… I can live without it though.
What I want to understand is: when people get to know me and claim to love me, when there is no mistake of the type of person I am, why speak to me in acts of service or physical touch? Is that my language? NO! Physical touch is a big no no for me, but when I express love to people who’s love language is physical touch, guess what??? I hug them, even when I don’t like it! Maybe I am the only one who can step out side of myself for others…
We are commissioned to love. Some people we love deeply, others we love neutral, like I don’t know you, but I’ll pray for you, I wish you no harm but that you love the Lord with all your soul mind and strength… hum…
So there is someone that I really love and I really thought that this person loved me back, and no, it was not a boy girl thing, but a mentor / men tee thing… This person was one of the first people to teach me about the love languages. This person knows my love language very well… yet while I was going through a very understandably tough time in my life, and simultaneously expressing my love to them via acts of service, (their love language), I hit a wall in the middle of the road that was breaking me… and then nothing… mentor dropped me like a bad habit! What did I do? I am guilty of continuing to try when I was losing the battle… so I gave up.
So know this mentor is going though some tough times and sending emailed prayer requests for her and family all the time, and I pray… maybe not the way I should, but I do… I can’t pray the way that I want to because I’m so dang on bitter!! I try to drop it move forward, do the Christ like thing… it’s so difficult!! My flesh wants to kick her to the curb and hurt her during her tough time, just like she hurt me in the mist of my tough time! My flesh is not winning this battle, but I am constantly reminded of how much more sensitive people are when they are going through a tough patch in life as opposed to when everything is fine. If I really wanted to get back at this mentor, this would be the perfect time! My acts of service and gift giving has come to a screeching halt with this person. I am holding out and believing that when this storm of hers is over, and she is in her right mind, then, hopefully, please Lord! Then she will make it right! Replacing me is not possible, there will never be another real on like me!!!
If you know my language then speak it! I can not decipher this other crap at all! I speak English not Japanese! If you love me, say it in a language I understand, for this road block has caused me to enclose myself in my cocoon of safety and leaves no room for any other humans… Is there healing for the tragically wounded heart?
There are five love languages that I know of, they are, words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, or physical touch. I fall into words of affirmation and receiving gifts as I love to encourage, give and receive gifts. Quality time is a half and half for me because that is not needed much, but is wanted sometimes… I can live without it though.
What I want to understand is: when people get to know me and claim to love me, when there is no mistake of the type of person I am, why speak to me in acts of service or physical touch? Is that my language? NO! Physical touch is a big no no for me, but when I express love to people who’s love language is physical touch, guess what??? I hug them, even when I don’t like it! Maybe I am the only one who can step out side of myself for others…
We are commissioned to love. Some people we love deeply, others we love neutral, like I don’t know you, but I’ll pray for you, I wish you no harm but that you love the Lord with all your soul mind and strength… hum…
So there is someone that I really love and I really thought that this person loved me back, and no, it was not a boy girl thing, but a mentor / men tee thing… This person was one of the first people to teach me about the love languages. This person knows my love language very well… yet while I was going through a very understandably tough time in my life, and simultaneously expressing my love to them via acts of service, (their love language), I hit a wall in the middle of the road that was breaking me… and then nothing… mentor dropped me like a bad habit! What did I do? I am guilty of continuing to try when I was losing the battle… so I gave up.
So know this mentor is going though some tough times and sending emailed prayer requests for her and family all the time, and I pray… maybe not the way I should, but I do… I can’t pray the way that I want to because I’m so dang on bitter!! I try to drop it move forward, do the Christ like thing… it’s so difficult!! My flesh wants to kick her to the curb and hurt her during her tough time, just like she hurt me in the mist of my tough time! My flesh is not winning this battle, but I am constantly reminded of how much more sensitive people are when they are going through a tough patch in life as opposed to when everything is fine. If I really wanted to get back at this mentor, this would be the perfect time! My acts of service and gift giving has come to a screeching halt with this person. I am holding out and believing that when this storm of hers is over, and she is in her right mind, then, hopefully, please Lord! Then she will make it right! Replacing me is not possible, there will never be another real on like me!!!
If you know my language then speak it! I can not decipher this other crap at all! I speak English not Japanese! If you love me, say it in a language I understand, for this road block has caused me to enclose myself in my cocoon of safety and leaves no room for any other humans… Is there healing for the tragically wounded heart?
Tuesday, September 1, 2009
Religion makes the Word of God of no effect!
What is it with religious people? A co-worker of mine who is a “devout Christian” really makes me wonder… This person sent her children to Christian schools and tears up at every service. She reads her “Jesus book” every morning and claims to know the Lord. But I wonder… See I know Him, but only because I have needed Him! I know Him well enough to know that He is not the monster God snatching away HIS CALL and blessings when we make mistakes! If He was, I would be screwed to no end!!!!!
So, this person once questioned me as to how the pastors at WWIC (the church I attend) could divorce and still be pastors. REGILOUS thoughts!! I wondered “Is she serious!!?” How can a person who has “walked with the Lord” this long, not know of His grace and mercy? How could she not know that the call of God is without repentance??!! Was King David not a murderer of his own friend whose wife he had slept with, impregnated, and later went on to marry??!! How messed up is that!!! David would so be in jail right now in our time…. BUT GOD called King David a man after His own heart.
The point is that David was called from his mothers womb! God, knowing all, knew that David would mess up, but He was still called, and still anointed King. Do you think God did not know that David would have Bathsheba’s husband killed?!? Yet the oil was still poured onto David’s head by Samuel!! There is no measuring scale when it comes to sin people! If you lie, cheat, steal, murder, gossip, or whatever you do that is not of God, no matter how big or small it is, it is SIN! So WHERE do religious people get off judging, and putting there mouths on the man or woman of God? Did not the WORD say, “touch not my anointed?” Talking about them, is touching them! Is there a clause anywhere in there that says, “only if they live a perfect life before man?” I think not!!!
So my opinion is, when you wonder about what someone else has done “wrong”, start by taking a long hard look at yourself 1st! You might find that you have no room to talk. If you want to talk about our God, and what he likes and does not like, remember that He does not like a gossip or slanderer. Remember that it is the LOVE of God that brings men to repentance. Remember that your faith is activated by love, and that without faith, it is impossible to please God. When you find yourself worrying about tomorrow that is not here or promised, remember that Faith without works is dead, and worry is the absence of FAITH!! When you find yourself thinking, “how can they divorce and still preach and teach the Word of God?” Why not try thanking God that they did not give up on God when the marriage failed! So many people have given up… So why not pray their strength in the Lord and hold up their arms like Moses! Stop thinking all about why this or that happened, but thank God that you survived, and remember Eph. 6:8; what you make happen for others, God will make happen for you!!
Therefore, I break any religious spirits that are reading this blog in the name of JESUS!!!
So, this person once questioned me as to how the pastors at WWIC (the church I attend) could divorce and still be pastors. REGILOUS thoughts!! I wondered “Is she serious!!?” How can a person who has “walked with the Lord” this long, not know of His grace and mercy? How could she not know that the call of God is without repentance??!! Was King David not a murderer of his own friend whose wife he had slept with, impregnated, and later went on to marry??!! How messed up is that!!! David would so be in jail right now in our time…. BUT GOD called King David a man after His own heart.
The point is that David was called from his mothers womb! God, knowing all, knew that David would mess up, but He was still called, and still anointed King. Do you think God did not know that David would have Bathsheba’s husband killed?!? Yet the oil was still poured onto David’s head by Samuel!! There is no measuring scale when it comes to sin people! If you lie, cheat, steal, murder, gossip, or whatever you do that is not of God, no matter how big or small it is, it is SIN! So WHERE do religious people get off judging, and putting there mouths on the man or woman of God? Did not the WORD say, “touch not my anointed?” Talking about them, is touching them! Is there a clause anywhere in there that says, “only if they live a perfect life before man?” I think not!!!
So my opinion is, when you wonder about what someone else has done “wrong”, start by taking a long hard look at yourself 1st! You might find that you have no room to talk. If you want to talk about our God, and what he likes and does not like, remember that He does not like a gossip or slanderer. Remember that it is the LOVE of God that brings men to repentance. Remember that your faith is activated by love, and that without faith, it is impossible to please God. When you find yourself worrying about tomorrow that is not here or promised, remember that Faith without works is dead, and worry is the absence of FAITH!! When you find yourself thinking, “how can they divorce and still preach and teach the Word of God?” Why not try thanking God that they did not give up on God when the marriage failed! So many people have given up… So why not pray their strength in the Lord and hold up their arms like Moses! Stop thinking all about why this or that happened, but thank God that you survived, and remember Eph. 6:8; what you make happen for others, God will make happen for you!!
Therefore, I break any religious spirits that are reading this blog in the name of JESUS!!!
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